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what i call the jim/pam effect (50 posts)
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Sooooo there is a man at work that I am just having fucking jim/pam esq problemas with and it's driving me crazy!

So que me starting off work at this restaurant last May, there is this guy there named Trout and I immediately find him fucking to die for tall, blue eyes, beardy, bike riding, nerd stoner. At this time even though I find him incredibly attractive I have a boyfriend who i luuuurve blah blah mushy feelings of attachment to subpar boyfriend who I wasted a year of my life on. With my awesomeness and lady charms I cast a mystical wooing spell over Trout and many times I hear him say things concerning how cute I am, how he likes me, if only there wasn't another dude in the picture- all things I should have maybe taken into consideration.

Now! My dude and I split and now that I am thru being semi attached to him and desire new conquests for dick. Naturally, I return to Trout who every single day I work with I feel like we find more in common with each other, take smoke breaks, play words with friends. Pretty much anytime I'm around him like the world stops and doesn't matter what's going on because he's so handsome and charming. But now! It is almost as if the tables have turned. Que the Jim Pam effect.

Blah! when we're at work together it's almost as if i've got him hooked we always talk, make faces together, the typical thing. But I just can't figure out how to make this transfer into more like outside of work. I'm not sure if he even knows i'm available now but I make it pretty clear that I don't spend time with another dude even if I haven't said it out loud.

Mostly I think I just wanted to rant. But anyone else have some terrible work crushness going on? Or making my dreams into reality advice haha
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....ask him to hang out some time?
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Just say "I'm single and I like you, shall we hang out sometime?"

eta: Great minds, Meg.

[This post edited by billybob_george on 21 June 2011 ]

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Haha nice Smile


If you want to take the pressure off of it, have a bunch of people from work go out together. Or have them over your place or one of their places. Ask him to tag along or something.
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thanks dudes Smile nah all of those have been my current tactics and they are nooot working. my current plan involves a party at my house to lure him in.
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ah. yes. go for that. and then slip him a floorie.
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quoting: Borninthewrongtimeperiod
Sooooo there is a man at work that I am just having fucking jim/pam esq problemas with and it's driving me crazy!

So que me starting off work at this restaurant last May, there is this guy there named Trout and I immediately find him fucking to die for tall, blue eyes, beardy, bike riding, nerd stoner. At this time even though I find him incredibly attractive I have a boyfriend who i luuuurve blah blah mushy feelings of attachment to subpar boyfriend who I wasted a year of my life on. With my awesomeness and lady charms I cast a mystical wooing spell over Trout and many times I hear him say things concerning how cute I am, how he likes me, if only there wasn't another dude in the picture- all things I should have maybe taken into consideration.

Now! My dude and I split and now that I am thru being semi attached to him and desire new conquests for dick. Naturally, I return to Trout who every single day I work with I feel like we find more in common with each other, take smoke breaks, play words with friends. Pretty much anytime I'm around him like the world stops and doesn't matter what's going on because he's so handsome and charming. But now! It is almost as if the tables have turned. Que the Jim Pam effect.

Blah! when we're at work together it's almost as if i've got him hooked we always talk, make faces together, the typical thing. But I just can't figure out how to make this transfer into more like outside of work. I'm not sure if he even knows i'm available now but I make it pretty clear that I don't spend time with another dude even if I haven't said it out loud.

Mostly I think I just wanted to rant. But anyone else have some terrible work crushness going on? Or making my dreams into reality advice haha




you were high as hell when you wrote that, weren't you?
god, i certainly hope so.


*** PRE-RELATIONSHIP SECRET 8 (How to move it along from Friend to Fuck) REVEALED ***


okay, here goes:

anyway, you should just walk up to TROUT
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
hold on
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha h ah
ha ha ha ha ha ha h ahaha ha ha ha ha
the fucking dude's name is TROUT, people!
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

so, you walk up to TROUT
haha
and you just say:
"so, you know that guy i was seeing, it just didn't work out, and i heard you all those times you said " if only there wasn't another dude in the picture..."

i will GUARANTEE you that by week's end you will be up to your uterus in TROUT dick.

see, what you have to do is use something that HE said as a catalyst to steer the conversation and relationship in the direction that you want it to go.
if a guy feels that you have paid attention to his "teases", then he will feel that you've thought about actually bedding him.
and if he knows that you've thought about it, then he is going to try and make it easy for you to actually do it!

do not do this in fron of other people. just in case it is too weird for him, he will need to do the deed on the down-low at first. if he sees that you are cool and dont get super clingy really early, then the relationship will progress to a stage of your choosing, and comfort level.

now that i have given you a secret about how a man's mind works, you must swear to never tell it to anyone else.
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xander , will you marry me? hahahaha *licks your mind*
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hehehehehe
that tickles!

of course i'll marry you
spend all your money
get the houseboy pregnant while you are at work

i do.
quote / posted 22 June 2011 8:26 AM
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thank you for your honesty. unfortunately though, i've already gotten the houseboy pregnant, and he me. so if you want a cute lil baby xanem with me you'll have to wait 9.5 months. i want half a month to recover with the help of your t t t touch. you have to spend your love on me too. : D
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You guys just get fucking weirder.
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... was he raised on a grow-op commune in British Columbia? Because I know someone named Trout who was. Does he have a sister named Rainbow?
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Is it just a nickname because of his Trouty Mouth?
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quoting: Secrets*Untold
You guys just get fucking weirder.


if i could like-button this i would. Razz
quote / posted 22 June 2011 7:24 PM
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I sometimes wonder if having access to the internet the majority of our lives fucked us all up.

The internet empowered all of us with a sense of self with things like spank, facebook and myspace...and never has anything in history created such a blanketed ego boost on a society before.

That's not a bad thing. i think people should like/love themselves. But it doesn't always work that way (digressing from my point a bit but let me roll with it)

Another component to the internet is the anonymity it provides....or even the anonymity it lets us think we have.

We can hid behinds tons of internet devices and conventions when we interact socially. Now think of someone spending half their life with that kinda environment. Totally padded and safe with an inflated ego? Fuck.

World seems like a scary fucken place all of a sudden.

Anyways, ask him out. He's probably more afraid of you.
quote / posted 23 June 2011 8:37 AM
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Yeah, I think you're on to something. The internet's great, but it's also got a lot of strange social effects that we only barely understand because it's still so new.
quote / posted 23 June 2011 10:33 AM
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i agree.
jp, were you inspired by the original post or my post just above yours?
what do you think the negative effects of a generation of ego boosted people running around will be?
in an ideal world i would hope that would lead to a generation of successful, happier, ambitious people but there are always annoying things about egotistical people too.
the other part about hiding behind internet devices is far more of a concern to me for the future.. bleck . i really have often thought about how our generation will be analyzed decades in the future... like 50 years down the road , the defining characteristics of a generation who conducts their social life half in person, half not.
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Haha. I thought at first he was talking about how those of us who were making fun of the guy's name wouldn't do it if we were all talking in person (and I really meant it in a good-natured way, and I'm serious, I do wonder if this is the same guy because he sounds a lot like the one I know, and not many people are named Trout!). I think it was really just about the original post though, and how perhaps people have a harder time making new in-person connections now because of being used to the protective veneer of the internet. But I think that gathering up the nerve to go the next step with someone you're swooning over has pretty much been a timeless bittersweet enigma.
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I got the impression he was tlaking about something tooootally different.
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This Xander Emily mutual masturbation is pretty circa 2003, except now we're all in our mid-twenties and it's not cute.

Jeri, ask him out for coffee, and then put his penis in your mouth.
quote / posted 23 June 2011 2:08 PM

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